"I'm not looking for a woman in my life just yet, if I'm unstable, I cannot support her. I must stabilize myself, first, before I choose to find my future partner, who is for life."
Getting a girlfriend is -not- status and it is -not- maturity.
Choosing the right one, and knowing when you are ready for a relationship is the true mark of maturity.
We must remember, that breaking hearts, isn't as easy as forgive and forget.
Oh, it looks so nice in the movies, but that's where movies and reality come apart.
Heartbreak rarely heals on it's own. Something happens that reminds someone of that special somebody some time ago, brings back painful memories that they'd thought gone. It's there, like a wound that's hidden beneath the gauze, ignored, not forgotten.
The relationship between a man and a woman, how ready both parties are and how willing both parties are to support and aid each other decides the next step in their relationship.
Many times people rush headlong into relationship with the simple mentality of "it feels good when we touch" or "she must be the one" or "there was instant chemistry".
Those things are fleeting, and will not last. I do not denounce that two people cant end up loving each other since they first met, but it is rarely the case.
Anyone can marry anyone. But it's whether both parties would, in love; stand for each other that decides how far their relationship will go.
A husband and a wife are a pair, who chose to come together, to support each other, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health.
So how come the divorce rates are so high?
Simple.
Most people weren't ready for that level.
In a game, you can't play level 100 if you don't play level 1 - 99. The same goes for relationships.
-IF- you cant handle your emotions, how can you expect to deal with another person's?
If you cant even stand fast for your principles, how can you expect to defend your partner's principles?
If you cant be responsible for yourself, how then, are you going to support your partner?
Love, isn't just the warm feeling you get.
Love is also the joy of sharing each others' presence.
The joy of sharing life together, the joy of sharing time with each other.
For better or for worse, for richer or for poorer.
So, if you were to ask, where does God fit in all this?
I can tell you, for sure; without a doubt, that He needs to be present in -every- area, and in -every- moment.
No marriage is perfect, and your life will -NOT- be all shiny and happy for all eternity.
If you are going to get married for that reason, stop right now. That's not the way.
There will be storms, the boat will be tossed around.
It is up to both parties to hold the fort. Both parties to stand strong together, in love and in faith.
In joy, in sorrow
In sickness, in health
In chaos, in peace
In love, remember
You are not alone.
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